Writer, Speaker, Organizer

I’m a writer, speaker, and organizer committed to helping communities recognize and uplift the voices of marginalized people. My work spans a range of practices that support equity, connection, and personal growth.

I engage with non-monogamous and sex-positive communities, offer diversity training rooted in group process work, and consult with self-directed learning spaces and unschooling families. I use tools like the Power of Difference assessment to support deeper understanding across lines of difference, and I work closely with intentional communities seeking to align their values with their actions. I also facilitate authentic relating practices that build trust and connection across identity.


The Token

Book cover of The Token

Common Sense Ideas for Increasing Diversity in Your Organization

As a Black organizer, community, business, and organization leaders often ask: “How do I get diversity in my group?” The thing is, the work is real, but it’s a minefield out there. And even progressive leaders can still, perhaps unknowingly, be racist and uphold oppressive systems.

In The Token, your new token Black friend, Crystal Byrd Farmer, acts as the bridge between majority white organizations that are dedicated to social justice and “diverse” people in community they want to recruit, across identities of race, LGBTQ, education, socioeconomic status, and disability.

With a blunt style that pulls no punches, Crystal tells you how it is, calling you out on tokenism, while extending a hand to help your organization make real transformative change toward diversity and inclusion. Coverage includes:

-What marginalized people experience and what they need to feel safe and comfortable in order to succeed

-Doing “The Work” – how to have deep conversations with your membership about the reality of bias, privilege, and microaggressions

-Practical exercises and discussion questions

-How to choose appropriate meeting locations and establish ground rules, when to bring in outside help, and how to recruit support within your organization

-Strategies on how to talk to friends who are resistant to progressive ideas.

-This no-nonsense, provocative, humorous, and accessible guide is for all well-meaning people leading progressive organizations who acknowledge the need for diversity but don’t know where to start.

Available in print, ebook, and audiobook

If you’re outside the US, Canada, or Australia, you can purchase a copy here!

Living Now Book Award Winner